Why rewrite what’s already been written! This morning I read a blog by one of my favorite new authors: Mark Batterson. His blog was entitled Criticism 101, and was so good – I’m reprinting it here. You can check out Mark’s blogs at evotional.com. Here’s Criticism 101:
Thought I’d share a few thoughts on the topic of criticism. I’m honestly surprised I don’t have more critics than I do, but I have my fair share. Here is a simple rule of thumb: if you are a leader you will be criticized. Period. If you’re not being criticized you might not be a leader! But how you handle it is so critical.
A few months ago I heard Brian Houston say something so good and so true: “I’d rather be a film maker than a film critic.” His point? There are those who do and those who criticize those who do. I’d rather be a doer than a critic. And I’ve learned that the more critical a person is the less they’ve probably done. Just shooting straight.
In the words of Teddy Roosevelt: “It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or the where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood.”
Life is too short and the message is too important to spend our energies criticizing each other. Infighting must break the Heavenly Father’s heart. It’s self-righteous. It’s sideways energy. And when we take pot shots at each other we’re just playing into the enemy’s hands. We need to be about the Father’s business!
Let me share a few lessons I’ve learned about criticism:
1) Thou Shalt Offend Pharisees. Jesus didn’t have the time of day for the self-appointed critics who formed the religious establishment. He didn’t back down. He confronted their hypocrisy. If you follow in Jesus’ footsteps, you’ll offend some pharisees along the way!
2) Don’t play defense. Life is too short to get defensive. Celebrate your weaknesses and failures. That’ll defuse criticism quicker than anything else. Keep a humble spirit but keep playing offense for the kingdom!
3) Consider the source! An insult from a fool is actually a compliment and a compliment from a fool is actually an insult.4) Preach for an audience of one. The only person you’re accountable to as a preacher is the One who called you in the first place. Never forget it. And for the record, critics will also be held accountable for the criticisms they wield so easily and so quickly.
5) Don’t get into an argument! I love Proverbs 26:4, “When arguing with fools, don’t answer their foolish arguments, or you will become as foolish as they are.” The very next verse says, “When arguing with fools, be sure to answer their foolish arguments, or they will become wise in their own estimation.” Those back-to-back verse seem to contradict each other but I think they reveal a deeper truth: if you’re arguing with a fool you can’t win.
The bottom line? Don’t be a critic. Be a doer of deeds.
Thanks for sharing this. My supervisor has been under a lot of fire from disgruntled employees lately so I shared it with her. She enjoyed it. I don’t actually go to Grace, but my sister (Amy Norwood) does and I like to go with her when I’m home. I like to read your blog. Its insightful and entertaining. I live in Houston right now and go to Mark Shook’s church, Community of Faith. Its very similar to Grace. I grew up in Bridgeport and my parents now reside in Paradise. I am very impressed with what you have done in the community if such a short period of time. Keep up the good work!
Sunni – thanks so much for your encouraging words – God has done amazing things here and we’re thankful to be a part of it. I worked with Mark Shook a number of years ago – also with his dad Damon – and with his brother Kerry. Tell Mark – BJ said hello!
Definitely one of your better posts. Can I send a tweet out to my followers about this?
Thanks – sure you can.