Parents With Students

We just completed a series on parenting at Grace and if you missed any of it, I hope you’ll go to our website and watch the podcasts.  If you are a follower of Christ, I especially hope you’ll watch the message from Feb. 3, 2013 titled: Chalk It – Talk It – Walk It.

During this series I used a number of things parents shared with me about their hopes and fears, and our Student Pastor Scott Johnson did an anonymous survey with our 5th-8th grade students.  I have the cards from this survey and read every one; the things these students shared were very insightful.

When asked: If you could CHANGE one thing about your parents, what would it be?  I was surprised that many of the students said they’d not change anything about their parents.  There were a few typical answers like: “I wish they wouldn’t be so strict” and one student said “I wish my mom would let me eat chocolate cereal.”  Beyond that, the most frequent answers were things like: “I wish they wouldn’t fight so much” or “I wish they’d make up.”  Another thing they said often was: “I wish they’d listen to me more.”

The 2nd survey question was: What one thing do you really APPRECIATE about your parents?  The most common answers were things like: “They love me,” “They take care of me,” and “They’re always there for me.”

When asked: “What really BUGS you about your parents?” the answers were very similar to their answers concerning what they’d change.  Several of them said: “Nothing.”  Frequent comments included things like:  a) they treat me and my brothers & sisters differently, b) they’re overprotective, and c) they don’t listen to me.

Overall – the students who responded were very positive about their parents and appreciate your love, care and concern for them.  Most of their answers were encouraging, but a few were heartbreaking.

It really bothers them when you fight or show favoritism in your family.   And one thing was clear;  they’d like to be able to have more open communication with you about their lives, and want you to listen more when they want or need to talk with you…..which is a good thing!

About bjrutledge

BJ & Janet were married in July 1977 They have three grown children who are all married: Jeremy & Whitney Rutledge, Chris & Julie Hurst, and Josh and Hannah Rutledge. They also have five grandsons, and a granddaughter. BJ says perhaps our greatest legacy is even though our kids are PK's, they love Jesus and are all involved in ministry in the local church. BJ has served at churches in Dallas - Bossier City, LA - Houston - and was at Fellowship of the Woodlands (Woodlands Church) in The Woodlands before coming to Grace Fellowship. BJ is the Legacy Pastor at Grace Fellowship Church in Paradise, TX.
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