I’m about to perform what’s probably going to be my last wedding; my nephew and his finance are getting married this weekend.  It’s been a joy to be a part of all my children’s weddings, and of my nieces and nephews weddings.  As I was reflecting on this, I read Psalm 127 this morning.

Psalm 127:1 says:  “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain…”

I see so many couples trying to build their marriage or relationship on the wrong things and foundation.  Jesus taught about building on the right foundation in Matthew 7:24-27.

So if I had only three principles to share with someone who is married or getting married they would be:

1.  Build your life individually, and your relationship together, on the foundation of Jesus Christ and His truth.  Apply His truth to your lives daily.  If you don’t know Jesus personally, what are the obstacles or questions you have that keep you from trusting and following Him?  Find someone who can help you work through those questions or obstacles!
2. Husbands love your wives and wives respect your husbands.  (Ephesians 5:21-33)  You both need to love and respect each other.
3. Quit trying to change each other.   Years ago I asked a man and woman who had a great marriage what their advice would be to any young couple getting married.  This couple had  been married over 50 years.  Without hesitation, the man basically said – quit trying to change each other, instead allow the Lord to change you.  And his wife said to make Christ the center of your life and home.

Yes, there are other things I’d say to couples who are married or thinking about getting married, but these three are the ones that immediately came to mind this morning.

Have a blessed day!